After a not-so-minor hiccup in travel plans, I am aboard my bus to Philly. This is solely due to the amazing dude at the stop who remembered me from an hour and a half ago and let me get on first. I was both stressin and sweatin real hard till now. Dinosaur Jr/Henry Rollins HERE. I. COME.
Friday and Saturday shows will be held at St. Stephen’s Church (1525 Newton St. NW, close to the Columbia Heights stop on the metro).
The show starts at 6pm on Friday. Lineup: Fell Types, Shoppers, Trophy Wife, Bad Banana, Aye Nako, & Lemuria. … Saturday there is a free workshop series: 11:00am - 12:30pm Social Justice Writing/Writing for Social Change Sex and Sexuality with Jacq Jones from Sugar [www.sugartheshop.com] Knitting and Crochet
12:30pm – 1:45pm Undoing Dominant Masculinity Panel Block and Screen Printing Harm Reduction with members of H.I.P.S.!
1:45 - 3:15 Combating the Anti-Choice Movement Do-It-Yourself Expression: Utilizing Zines and Blogs for the Creation and Distribution of Independent Media with Jenna Brager from Zinefest DC Call Me Out: Community Response to Abuse & The Calling Out Process with Support New York
3:30 - 5:00 Race and Privilege in Youth Culture with members of Sulu DC, Words Beats and Life, and more! Queer Community Building Radical Consent: From Hookups to Relationships with Ben Pivot
Bike Maintenance Workshop All Day!
Show starts at 6pm. Lineup: Teen Wolves, Cat Vet, Hot Mess, Big Eyes, Foreign Objects, Nuklear Blast Suntan, Condenada, & Shellshag.
Sunday will be happening at Black Cat (1811 14th St. NW, close to the U st. exit on the metro) Doors open at 2pm.
Lineup: Tit Fit, Foul Crux,Death First, Emilyn Brodsky, Appalachian Terror Unit, Zombie Dogs, New Creases, & the Ambulars. Sunday evening there will be a film screening as well.
“Socializing is as exhausting as giving blood. People assume we loners are misanthropes, just sitting thinking, ‘Oh, people are such a bunch of assholes,’ but it’s really not like that. We just have a smaller tolerance for what it takes to be with others. It means having to perform. I get so tired of communicating.”—
Why someone may have their preferred pronouns listed on their tumblr:
Because they don’t want people to misgender them
Because they want people to respect their identity
Because there may be other pronouns that trigger the fuck out of them and they want people to not use those
Because, seeing how misgendering happens left and right, knowing what a person’s preferred pronouns are is something that is worth knowing as to not erase and invalidate people
What some people think having your preferred pronouns listed means:
That a person is pretentious
That a person is a “special snowflake”
That a person is ‘being picky’
That a person is purposefully trying to make the lives of others more difficult
That a person is any number of negative things
What you’re probably being if you hold the opinions in column two:
No, seriously. You’re very much likely being a jackass.
What you need to understand:
It’s not about you
It’s not about making your life more difficult
It’s not about policing everything that you say
It is about not erasing other people
It is about not invalidating the identities of others
It is about respecting the identities of others and treating others how they deserve to be treated
What you need to stop doing:
Attacking and degrading people for having preferred pronouns
Attacking and degrading people when they tell you that you’ve used the wrong pronouns
Purposefully using the wrong pronouns for a person, even after they’ve told you that they aren’t comfortable being referred to as such
One last thing that you need to understand:
There’s a good chance that, at some point, you will use the wrong pronouns for someone. If this happens, don’t switch to douchebag-mode. Apologize (and meaning it would be good, too). Understand. And make efforts to not do the same thing in the future.
[TRIGGER WARNING at the link for discussion of rape and sexual assault]
This whole essay is REALLY FREAKING AMAZING, and I urge you to click through and read the whole thing because he addresses a lot of different parts of the problem with sexism (both within and outside the punk scene).
And recognizing that our male dominated culture is fucked up doesn’t make you a self-hating man, either. When I first heard Bikini Kill, it was fucking thrilling. Hearing someone lash out against dominant sexist attitudes wasn’t exciting in some sort of “oh good for women, they’re standing up for themselves,” type of way. It was liberating to hear someone take on those traditional expressions of masculinity, because I hated the ways I was expected to act as a man. I hated the toughness and numbness that was expected from men, because I wanted to be able to express my emotions without fear of ridicule. I hated the predatory way that men acted towards women, because I wanted to be free to have meaningful relationships with women. Likewise, I hated the homophobia, because I wanted to have meaningful relationships with the men in my life. I see men around me all the time who refuse to show any signs of vulnerability for fear of appearing feminine, and they tend to cut themselves off emotionally from the world. It’s fucking sad. I see men all the time who only view their relationships in terms of conquest, and I can’t think of one of them who has a healthy emotional life. Breaking down ideas around male superiority and masculinity is absolutely in mens’ best interests. In a punk context, I can say with certainty that the scenes I’ve visited that were the most gender inclusive have always been the most exciting and thriving music communities. There’s nothing to be gained for men in maintaining the boy’s club.
Seriously, please click through for the rest. So, so many great points are being made here.
“You don’t want to start setting up another rule book, like: “This is how you’re a feminist. And this is the way you dress. And this is the way you act. And this is the way you protest.” It’s like, some people protest carrying signs. Some people protest by making activist radical music. Sometimes people try to just make it through a day and not kill themselves, and that’s their activism for right then, because that’s all they have.”—Kathleen Hanna (via riotisnotquiet)
“he posed a question to all of the men in the room: “Men, what things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?”
Not one man, including myself, could quickly answer the question. Finally, one man raised his hand and said, “Nothing.” Then Katz asked the women, “What things do you do to protect yourself from being raped or sexually assaulted?” Nearly all of the women in the room raised their hand. One by one, each woman testified”
This is such a powerful exercise.
This article starts on the second page when you click the link, so you can click here to be taken to the first page. It was a really good article that I enjoyed.