“One of the most important tools we can give young people — boys and girls alike — is the reminder that their sexuality belongs to them. Pleasure is a deep and profound good, and for all of what we imagine to be their self-indulgence, young people today don’t have nearly as much healthy pleasure as they need. This is about more than teaching young people to masturbate without shame (though that’s never a bad idea.) It’s about giving them the time and space and privacy to reflect on their sexuality as something that belongs to them. With young women, it’s about teaching the difference between the desire to be desired and desire itself. (I’ll deal with young men in another post.) It only takes a girl a few seconds to realize what someone else may want from her sexually. It often takes her much longer to figure out what she really wants, to discern the pleasure she gets from bringing pleasure to another from the pleasure she wants for herself. And once she’s figured that out, it’s vital to work to create a culture where she can articulate that want without shame.”—The Paris Paradox: how sexualization replaces opportunity with obligation at Hugo Schwyzer (via sexisnottheenemy)
Currently, the local (Conservative) MP in London, Ontario is running a poll on his website asking the following question:
“Should Parliament support the NDP MP’s Bill to amend the Canadian Human Right Act to add gender identity and gender expression as grounds for prohibited discrimination?”
There’s been a battle back and forth over the course of the week. When it was first discovered, the numbers were almost even with “yes” in a slight lead. After being spread through Facebook by myself and a few others, “Yes” was up to almost 74%. Then, in the early morning of the following day, the poll was picked up on by a Montreal Gazette blogger, who (with all good intentions, i’m quite sure) posted it to her MG blog… and now it’s been a battle. There’s nearly 4000 votes thus far, and we are currently losing — but not by much.
Take a moment to click “yes” on the poll. Spread it to others, and have them do the same. For those who aren’t aware of Canadian politics as they currently stand, we have a minority Conservative government (their party has the most seats, but does not hold a majority.) This bill was put forth by an MP from another party, and could very well be shot down simply for political reasons outside of the already “OMG MEN IN OUR WASHROOMS” whargarrble that has been put forth by those in opposition to this.
Every vote counts. Even if we don’t win, every vote matters. Show this MP that trans rights matter in Canada. Vote here:
"People think I’m insane because I am frowning all the time All day long I think of things but nothing seems to satisfy Think I’ll lose my mind if I don’t find something to pacify Can you help me occupy my brain?”
There really are much better Black Sabbath songs, but this one fits so well right now.
When you have nothing, you haven’t even hope to spare. You’re exactly where you want to be. You wouldn’t have it any other way. Any other way would be complication. Depression ain’t so bad. Makes you wish you’d never been born, But you always jump right back. Now I’ve been on top of the world, And I’ve been stuck at the bottom. I have kicked and I’ve crawled, Tried to get my way back up. But there’s nothing wrong with a break before you get back up. Depression ain’t so bad. Look at all the good it’s done Robert Johnson.
“What stuck in the minds of these men who had become murderers was simply the notion of being involved in something historic, grandiose, unique (“a great task that occurs once in two thousand years”), which must therefore be difficult to bear. This was important, because the murderers were not sadists or killers by nature; on the contrary, a systematic effort was made to weed out all those who derived physical pleasure from what they did. The troops of the Einsatzgruppen had been drafted from the Armed S.S., a military unit with hardly more crimes in its record than any ordinary unit of the German Army, and their commanders had been chosen by Heydrich from the S.S. élite with academic degrees. Hence the problem was how to overcome not so much their conscience as the animal pity by which all normal men are affected in the presence of physical suffering. The trick used by Himmler — who apparently was rather strongly afflicted by these instinctive reactions himself — was very simple and probably very effective; it consisted in turning these instincts around, as it were, in directing them toward the self. So that instead of saying: What horrible things I did to people!, the murderers would be able to say: What horrible things I had to watch in the pursuance of my duties, how heavily the task weighed upon my shoulders!”—Hannah Arendt, Eichmann in Jerusalem: A Report on the Banality of Evil (1963). (via fuckyeahexistentialism)